Tag: Wife

Rewiring at work ?

Session #5. Helix Time: 90 min. Pre-lube: ID Glide + H2O Tool-lube: Crisco & pH on stem 5/21/09 (Rewiring at work?)

I had planned to repeat the pleasureful approaches to orgasm that I'd had twice during Session #4. Then, rev them up a bit. However, I got sage advice from <helixbill> and <Love_is> … tone it down a lot. Both of these gents seem to have been where I am now so the message came with powerful 'sponsorship.'

So, this turned into a 'relaxation' session. Laid out all my stuff on the bed in advance. (Skipped my wife's perfumed oils and soft candles. I'm not that fem…yet! — LOL) Did the whole prep and shower. Took the advice and tried to ratchet down the Type-A spirit that had driven me quite hard in Session #4.

Inserted and started with simple contractions to seat the Helix and lightly massage the prostate, then assumed a BCL, relaxed, meditated and worked with a fantasy. No attempt at 'positional awareness' or any 'micro massage.' At 20 minute intervals I rolled from one side to back, to other side then to belly in spread eagle. Nada, discontinued at 90 minutes.

Lube note: Lube didn't seem quite as fluid as it was for Session #4. Perhaps Ultra-Gel is worth another try. Read more »

The Big Change (3 sub-sessions)

Session #4. (The "Big Change" session) This post is a journal of three 'sub-sessions' that alternated between the Helix (with a 'tab cover') and the SGX. Total time was 135 minutes. 5/15/09

Session #4a: Giving up on contractions Helix. Over an hour

This is probably what most guys manage in Session #1 or #2. I just move at snail speed.

I had planned this as a Friday afternoon adventure but was awakened at 2 a.m. by someone scratching on my arm (wasn't the dog!) So, being an 'all-american' gent I made the wrong assumption and asserted myself (she said, "not now and maybe, not anytime today.") So, there we were at 2 a.m., wide awake with fresh coffee and, sense there's little chance for sex, I'm trying to negotiate a time slot for some solo Helix-play. Also asking whether she wanted me to save some of life's essence to share after the Helix play. Or, should I just finish myself off after the session. Her answer was that my attitude appreared 'too academic' for her to get involved. She definitely didn't want an Aneros discussion and her tone was, 'testy.'

I decided to not 'shoot the wad' and would just enjoy the Aneros ride. Perhaps a couple of house bouquets in the afternoon would put me back in her good graces. (note to any reader under the age of 50: In a few years, skip long-stem roses and go for 'house bouquets.' Easy to get at a drive-through florist and the price is a fraction of what you'd pay for roses.) Read more »

Getting Started

I had a major turning point on Session #4 so have lumped the first three sessions together. These sessions didn't move very far through the Wiki list of milestones. But I smoothed out a lot of basics and learned what a contraction was.

Aside from the nuts and bolts of "session management" the big project was getting my wife OK with the idea of 'female orgasms for men' So, she is OK with it but, without penis work, she sees her role as 'non-existant.' Eventually I want her involved in nipple and torso work but that's still several sessions away.

Session #1 (the basics)

SGX then Helix. Pre-lube: 10cc K-Y jelly Tool lube: K-Y jelly 75 min. 5/7/09

For session #1 I skipped the shower/mood-adjustment and focused on running through the 'basics' in the instructions and in the Wiki. The prep was pretty straightforward but I over-did on the amount of rectal rinse. That left several ounces of excess water in my colon which later diluted the K-Y lube. (this, was to become a recurring theme — I just don't discharge the whole 4 ounces). I started doing basic contractions with the SGX to see how it played with my bph. While it did produce a generous amount of pre-cum, I didn't sense any major prostate pressure or stimulation during contractions.

Swapped to the Helix. Sensed definite prostate contact. Anal contractions produced a 'jabbing' feeling. The 'pleasure-to-discomrfort' (P2D) ratio wasn't great but was liveable. Read more »

How I stumbled in here

Blog, ground-zero. — how I stumbled in the door —

Early in 2009 my wife and I embraced the Oprah/Sue Berman/Dr. Oz approach to improve our g-spot batting average. That involved a set of Dr. Berman's training tools, maps, and techniques. Good stuff!

Then, at a 'Sex101' workshop for seniors, a local Urologist mentioned that the g-spot was just a "left-over chunk of prostate tissue common to both males and females… …both the g-spot and prostate had similar sensory characteristics and connections to the Central Nervous System." Soooo….., what was good for the Goose must be fair for the Gander.

Even though I have an 'itchy' prostate, my track record with anal-stim is poor. Most anal toys have given me a lousy "pleasure-to-discomfort ratio." All have settled to the bottom of our toy box or have gone out in the trash. Nevertheless, we searched the web stores for a new p-tool for couples. I chose a brand-name, modestly-sized p-vibe. It had a remote control so that my wife could occasionally goose me. (she thought the radio controlled model was…. 'tacky') LOL

Long story short: the 'p-vibe' wouldn't stay put. So, sayonara, vibe.

Then, off to the local toy and leather shop to find something that would stay in place and not have sharp edges. The counter person guaranteed that a Helix would stay put. Sold ! My wife gift-wrapped it. Read more »

Totally Surprised

Ok I am always somewhat skeptical to claims about anything to extend arousal, lenght, ect….. Opened up my package and went right to it. It was easy to get in, a little fear in that I never had gone that far before. I just relaxed and my anus sucked it right in. As soon as I got in in I laid down in the same position as it said in the directions. I only had about twenty minutes but i wanted to test the waters. Well I definetely started to like the feeling and sensations. I have used a vibrator with the wife before but these feelings were deeper. I committed the next day I would try it for a longer period.I noticed that many of the movements felt better like I was thrusting for sex while doing kegels. Read more »

Tales of the Everglades Wanker

I have wanted to write this blog for awhile but every time I log on read others blogs and that seems to occupy my time. So today my mind seems to be reflecting on where aneros fits into my life. As I read others blogs I always think back and try to relate as to my experiences. I remember when I was younger trying to explain to someone what it's like to get stoned. It's just like that with the prostate orgasm. Unless you've been there it just can't be described. It involves so much more than one feeling. How do you explain something on all those levels where someone who hasn't experience it says, "oh ya, now I get it." It's just something that has to be experienced. I read some blogs where people experience orgasm on the first try. Then you have the ones who are "grinders" (you know who you are) 🙂 as was I. My advice to those of you, just keep grinding. It worked for me. One guy stated he had hands free ejaculations using his aneros…Hey guy, lucky you. I can only hope. There are people here that drop personal notes from time to time. For this group being a bunch of guys, it's a nice touch. As for the ladies, there are actually some here also. It's fun reading the ladies take on this whole aneros thing. Oh well I am rambling here. Aneros has been a great addition in my life and I couldn't imagine it not being part of it. This is so personal. I certainly enjoy sex with my wife but this adds a little more fulfillment. Oh well hope you all don't mind the rambling. "AIN'T LIFE GRAND"

First few attempts while not futile were not great

Well, let me start with a bit of background, I am a mid thirties white male physician in the North GA Mountains, I have began experiencing occasional prostatis. PSA levels not elevated, my urologist friend suggested prostate massage when it is inflammed. He suggested the Aneros and told me that he uses on for preventative prostate health and that I should consider it, and that the only side effects he has seen so far are mind blowing waves of pleasure and orgasms. So of course I ordered one right away, personally had never heard of it before or would have already had one. I am no stranger to anal play, my wife, who is also a physician, has massaged my prostate before while taking my cock in her mouth, and it is amazing.

So, about 2 weeks ago it finally arrived, I rushed home having the afternoon to myself and eagerly opened the package to find a much smaller that I had imagined looking Helix. Thank goodness for that too, as a single finger is the most I have had back there at one time. I began with a double fleet enema to make sure I was clean, then had a nice hot shower, injected approx 6ml of Astroglide silicone based, lubed MrHelix and inserted. OK, now I fully understand what you guys mean when you say it is simply drawn in by your anus, wowwww, that was good, so far so good. Read more »

Sod's Law, Murphy's Law & drying laundry

I thought it was time to blow the dust off the blog.
I visit the site on a daily basis to see what is happening.
I have had many sessions with the Aneros, usually every second day.
On a couple of occasions I have come close but have not gone over the edge.

Sod's Law.
The wife is out for a couple of hours so I have a session.
Just coming to the boil and the house phone rings.
Her son answers but the moment is gone.
Concentrate, try again. Getting close and my mobile rings(The wife)
End of session.

Part 2.
Similar to the above but 2 day's later.
Wife out.
On the edge and my mobile rings.
Can I go to the neighbour as he wants to talk to me about something.
End of session.
Go to the neighbour, he is out.
Am I smiling.

Murphy's Law.
To the gentleman in Ireland whose Aneros was lost by An Phost.
This is an example of Murphy's Law.

Drying Laundry.
There was a post about "Pegging".
I had a read and saw that a "Feeldoe" was mentioned.
Googled it and had a read.
Posted the link to the original post.
It got me thinking.
The wife did say when we tried the Aneros together if
there was anything for her.
She ment front door not back door.
I told her I thought I had found the very thing.
Sat her down at the computer last night to look on the website.
Cannot acess site. Site has a problem.
Sod's Law!!!!!!!!!!!!! Read more »

Oily Fish Moon

Maxed on fish oil (now push the pedal down!)

I completed my 15 day ramp up from 0 to 6250 mg of fish oil per my original plan just in time for the Full Moon Club lollapalooza. I’ll let you be the judge, since success can only be based on results…

First of all, I was able to get my wife in on the action! We have a weekly Sunday night meeting to discuss the week ahead and the FMC made the agenda for Wednesday at 9. On Wednesday, after getting the house all settled down, I lubed up, chose the Helix, and got into bed naked. “Oh right”, she says “It’s the Full Moon”, and she waved her fingers in the air and made a scary Halloween sound.

Now this is the first time I’ve just laid next to her and had a session – we’ve enjoyed the Aneros during couple play on numerous occasions, but this time I wasn’t expecting anything I just needed my space in the bed (especially since this full moon thing is timed perfectly for her cycle). Regardless, she started right in on me; touching, sucking, licking and stroking. 45 minutes. I finally got my “large muscle quaking” groove going – despite telling her distinctly “I bet you can’t make me jerk like that again”. Near 10:00, she launched me. The wonderful thing about it is that for those first 45 minutes, before she changed her focus, in spite of all her efforts, she did not trigger the traditional orgasm reflex. In the final five minutes, that was a different story. Read more »