Author: goldenboy

“Is This A New Approach To Semen Retention and Wet Dreams?”

What Happened?
I am now in Day 8 of SR and thought that I would have to ejaculate soon. But something happened this morning that led me to believe that sooner rather than later, I will be experiencing another wet dream. Here’s the new approach…..

A New Fantasy
What I experienced this morning was quite simple. I got an ‘order’ from my urologist (like a prescription) that I should remain in chastity and thus strive to achieve a wet dream. No masturbation or porn or orgasm allowed (essentially NoFap PMO!) That means progressing a little further in semen retention and not to dwell unnecessarily on the potential for blue-balls. This approach might present my ‘ejaculatory system’ to me in a new light—-a new ‘chastity’ if you will. Since I am just following ‘doctor’s orders’, I must comply, right? Even a little bit of blue-ball discomfort should not stop me now. Of course, time will tell, but even now at Day 8, I still feel great!

What Next?
I will continue on the SR road and expect to achieve a wet dream sometime soon. Last time I remember, it happened at Day 12. When that happens again, I will have followed my doctor’s instructions perfectly!

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“Changing Up The Session!”

Introduction
I was ready for this morning’s session. Here’s how it happened….

Pre-Session
I retired for the night only wearing my PJs. Yes, I know I am in Day 8 of SR but I really do feel like I could go farther. I awoke about 2 AM with a rather stiff erection. Rather than just grab and put-on a cup, I decided to “wait-it-out”. I just remained still in bed, probably for at least 30 minutes. After that, I rolled-over on my stomach and started to wonder: “Is this how a wet dream would occur?” I began to think about the possibility of having another erection while I was asleep and that may precipitate a wet dream? Intriguing possibility! But In the end, I decided to put-on my XO cup and just try to get back to sleep.

Session
I awoke again, this time about 5 AM and just knew that I needed a session with the MGX Classic. I had not ridden it in a while and was anticipating the pleasure it could provide. So I lubed-up with SSG and got the stem in quite deeply; The MGX has the possibility of stimulating a HFWO and so, being in Day 8, I would not mind too much if I ended this session with an ejaculation. Since there is more ‘room’ in back of the Mueller cup (between the leg straps), I switched cups before the start of the session. Read more »

“Lock Me Up!”

Credo
That’s the attitude I am taking this morning! Let me explain…..

Discussion
I am progressing towards an ejaculation (or perhaps a wet dream) and currently in Day 7 of semen retention (SR). I have worn my Mueller Flex Shield cup since early this morning and am so glad that I did. I experienced a quite powerful erection and if I were not wearing the cup, I probably would have ejaculated by now. As always, the cup prevents any and all attempts at masturbation and at Day 7, there is more of an extreme ‘urgency’ to accomplish the mission.

I know it will get progressively harder and harder to refrain from ejaculating the longer I go within SR. Two things will happen: either I will develop blue-balls (more likely) or I will experience a wet dream (less likely). Either way, I will ejaculate. How long can I last?

Attitude
PS There is a change in attitude as I progress longer in SR. There is a more ‘in-your-face’ attitude towards sex too. Guys that are locked-up in chastity (with a keyholder) experience this feeling regularly. They don’t really know IF or WHEN their next ejaculation will occur. I am starting to develop that same feeling now. It is very frustrating yet so sexually arousing at the same time. Read more »

“Sleeping Without Chastity Isn’t Working!”

Introduction
I am trying to sleep without a “chastity cup” most nights now. For the most part, I am getting a good night’s sleep. However, there is a problem. Let me explain…..

Nightly NPTs
I am sometimes awakened following a vivid dream sequence and discover that I awaken with a hard erection. I find it extremely difficult to keep my hands to myself. In fact, a couple of nights ago, I was only in Day 3 of SR but I “blew” it——I fell into a so-real fantasy (not wearing a cup) where I was back in my urologist’s office and this time one of his “aids” was performing a routine “ejaculation response test” on me to determine whether I had PE, DE or “normal” EJ response. The penile and scrotal stim felt entirely out of “my” control and although it was extremely arousing and pleasurable, I could not stop the ejaculation nor remain in chastity. I am now, sadly, back at Day 2.

This morning, I started to fall-into the same trap. But I decided to put-on my Mueller Flex Shield cup. And as soon as I did, I felt much better: I was unable to touch-and-feel my erection and so I was able to stay on my current ‘run’ of SR. What a relief!

Lesson Learned
The desire to remain in chastity always gets tested every night. If I want to remain on-track with chastity, I need to ‘protect’ my package from my mischievous, probing hands! If I were younger and desiring to start a family, however, these erections (and ejaculations) would be most welcome! Read more »

“Chastity, Celibacy and Aneros”

Introduction
I was browsing online this morning for ideas and definitions of chastity and celibacy (and abstinence too). And one of the take-aways was that it was important to practice regular prostate massage when undertaking these activities, particularly when combined with semen retention and resultant fewer ejaculations. It is important to prevent prostate issues such as cancer. A prostate massage (initially a few times a week then perhaps twice a month minimum) was recommended. That seemed to resound in my head, and the next thing I knew, I was headed up to my bedroom to perform a quick “therapeutic” prostate-massage session. I haven’t had one in a while.

Session
I selected rather quickly my Helix-Trident, lubed it up and began the session. And just as quickly, I fell-into a ‘matter-of-fact’ medical fantasy: I am preparing for a checkup in my urologist’s office and he wants all his patients now to ‘prep’ with a prostate massage. So I obliged.

The Helix went-in very easily and before I knew it, I had started the session. It wasn’t too long before I began to experience an ‘auto-f**k’ feeling within; very slight PC contractions which felt amazingly good. Every now and then, there was a more (involuntary) anal contraction. The doctor told me that this ‘prep’ was to be 15 to 20 minutes minimum; I stopped after 20 minutes. This was probably one of the best sessions I have had with the H-T in a while. And I am only in Day 2 of SR! I was wearing my XO ProCup during this session and several times during this ‘therapy’ I felt a ‘pump or two’ of something (turned out to be precum). An amazing feeling and an ever better prostate ‘prep’! Read more »

“The Bigger Picture”

{Note: Adult sexual content expressed in this blog. Readers be advised.}

Background
Lying in bed early this morning. I had slept part of the night in my Mueller cup; it was sooooo relaxing I hardly felt that I had it on! At one point, I decided to take it off and just sleep in my PJs. I had some vivid (non-sexual) dreams which I remember. During the night, I began to dwell on this concept and will relate it as I remember. (PS I am currently in Day 7 of SR; I have not had an Aneros session in a few days).

Meditation
I began to think not about the obvious differences between us males and females, but rather our respective sexual functions . And the distinction was rather clear in my mind. We males are the “actors” (the aggressors, the dominant ones) in sex. It is up to us to deposit our sperm into the female. The females do not have this function, other than to regulate their “fertile” days if they want to conceive. It is entirely up to us to accomplish our “mission”.

Then, as I dwelt on this some more, it became clear that us males need to “ensure” that we are “ready and able” to deposit our semen (that is, to ejaculate) at any time. Further, it became clear that anything we can do to “stimulate” our functioning sexual apparatus is beneficial. That would include massaging our prostates (through Aneros), edging, and even masturbation. Watching porn would certainly not be out of the question. This is especially true for guys that don’t have sex or have it very infrequently (such as myself). Read more »

“Cup or No Cup? It’s Your Choice!”

Introduction
Slept in my PJs overnight without a cup. Yes, only in Day 3 now of SR. Several times, I was awakened following an NPT. Towards morning, however, I developed a very strong, no-turning-back urge to start ‘petting’ my scrotum and cock. Using my fingernails, I lightly and gently started stroking the soft, semi-crinkly skin on my scrotum, sometimes reaching under towards my perineum and sometimes reaching up towards the underside of my cock. And know what? I couldn’t stop! The feeling was sublime and although I didn’t want to ‘edge’ myself to an ejaculation, I somehow felt that if I continued doing this, I would. So what to do?

The Solution
I had to make a choice. Either continue with the scrotal stim and get close to the PONR and ejaculate, or stop. What did I do? I stopped! Knowing that the solution was at-hand, I reached for my Mueller ‘chastity cup’ and put-it-on. And immediately, I began stroking the curvy, sexy cup of plastic! I could not feel any of the previous sensations, but that didn’t mean that I didn’t feel anything. Let me explain….

The Trade-Off
Wearing a cup, then, obviously takes-away the temptation to masturbate completely. But in the process, it introduces a new sensation: stimulation from the cup. Since the cup provides some pressure all-around the groin and the male package, it has a unique, sexy feeling. And because the cup wraps-under the perineum, some pressure is put on that part of the male anatomy as well (including the prostate). This combination is (for guys that have never tried it) uniquely and specifically male-enhanced. It is somewhat strange and ironic that the absence of stimulation (from masturbation) can cause stimulation (from the cup). But not enough to elicit an ejaculation. That is the advantage (IMO) of wearing a cup! Touche’. Read more »

“It Just Feels Better With A Cup!”

[Thanks to @BigGlansDC for his continuing support of wearing cups in bed and during Aneros sessions]

Intro
Went to sleep wearing only PJs and didn’t even think about the NPTs that would be coming during the night. Sure enough, I awoke about 3 AM with an arousing erection and firm balls. I am currently in Day 8 of semen retention and I have felt that “boost” in T-level for sure! I am not ready to ejaculate yet. What to do?

Solution
I quickly decided to put-on my Mueller cup because of the way it feels. And once I did, that ‘comfortable’ feeling just got me thinking…

Forget Chastity
What I realized is that, throwing-out all I know about male chastity, putting-on that cup just felt better! Need more synonyms? How about improved, exceptional, superior, desirable, more useful? Take everything I have written about male chastity and just put-it-aside for now. Concentrate on the comfort and the relief that the cup provides. It just ‘feels better’!

Scenarios
Once back in bed and feeling more comfort from the cup, I began to think about other ways that guys feel ‘better’ while wearing their cups. And a few examples quickly came to mind….
• Baseball players wear their cups for sure to protect their ‘equipment’ from errant balls and field-play. No fan would question their choice of protection; the ‘bulge’ in their pants attests to their commitment.
• Some male police officers wear bulletproof cups (groin guards for females) particularly for SWAT teams. I don’t think anyone would deny a police officer’s choice to wear a bulletproof vest, so why not groin protection while on duty?
• Male and female wrestlers and kick-boxers routinely wear groin guards to protect their vital organs during matches. Fans would expect no less.
• Can you imagine an ice-hockey player not wearing a cup? I can’t either. Read more »

“Hey Guys, We’ve Got A Bulge!”

While taking a shower this morning and doing a testicular self-exam (which I do monthly), while examining my soft scrotum, I thought about this topic. Now I’m not here to state the obvious. But it dawned on me that rich or poor, tall or short, all guys have a bulge. And it is bigger when our cocks are erect. Females don’t have this “condition” so their normal “bulges” (more like curves) are the same size all the time.

Then I got to thinking some more…..

Some guys like to show-off their bulges by wearing tight jeans or even bulge-enhancing underwear.
Male athletes will display their bulges by wearing jockstraps with or without cups as part of their uniform.
Male swimmers and divers will naturally display their bulges through their tight-fitting suits.
Male wrestlers will show their obvious ‘packages’ through their skin-tight singlets (usually with a jockstrap or compression shorts).
An aroused male with a large package will approach a willing female and she can’t help but notice if she is in the mood.
And so on……

Where am I going with this?…. Read more »

“Does Anticipation of a Session Make For a Better Session?”

Background
I had a nice session with Helix Trident yesterday. Slept in my Safe-T-Gard Cage Cup overnight; I am now in Day 7 of SR. Lying in bed early this morning (about 5 AM) I began to contemplate a short session using my HIH 950.

Anticipation
In my mind, I was going ‘through-the-motions’ of prep: lube, insertion, relaxation and almost was ready to advance. In my mind, I could ‘feel’ the massager begin to work on my prostate. I ‘felt’ the soft but compelling glides of the slippery tool against my aching gland. Then, I ignored the whole idea. Why?….

Better Next Time?
I discovered that by building-up the anticipated Aneros session in my brain (I almost accomplished it) I was already on a path to prostate pleasure. It’s a little bit like anticipating an ejaculation through edging. But the edging never happened. Likewise, the prostate massage never happened. Yes, I was disappointed. But the anticipation caused a ‘rush’ in my arousal that is hard to describe. I can now feel a gentle ‘pulsing’ in my prostate, almost asking me: “When next?”

Analysis
As I entered this blog post, I am performing nice, gentle PC contractions and definitely starting to feel it in my prostate. Perhaps it will reward me with another great real session sometime? Touche’.

PS I can’t liken this inaction to a form of chastity . The anticipated session was real from the start. So I never anticipated that it wouldn’t happen. In chastity, you know that you are always denied the pleasure. This ‘mind-game’ is worthy (IMO) of further inspection. Read more »