Pretty much every post here is positive, or is just series of instructions that wont work for everyone. All the “craziest orgasm of my life” posts seem to have some element of luck, and more often have had some form of anal play. These people usually achieve the super o in a very short period of time and they really dont say anything specific that has helped me. I have read countless articles here and on the forum and it seems like there is no silver bullet. I get strong involuntaries that can feel nice but its rare to feel any sort of pleasure for more then a second.
All this talk about letting go of expectations was helpful and I have made headway, but after a certain point you gotta ask yourself, is this actually getting better or are am I just telling myself it is? There is definitely some kind rewiring definitely going on, and I see some kind of potential, but standard penile pleasure is still better by far.
I have tried abstaining from the aneros which has helped before, but I just had almost a week off and had a dull session. I have tried not masturbating for extended periods and honestly it doesnt help, I think I get closer when I have been mastubating more often to be honest because of a higher baseline libido. When I go without ejaculatory orgasms my libido drops noticeably.