My partner has super low sex drive due to medical, hormonal and situational reasons. I’m super supportive and patient but I have needs. Our progress or desire to have progress has stalled.
Finding prostate play has given me a new lease on life. I’m new to aneros with only a a few sessions so far and nothing amazing to report.
But I feel great, I have control, I have excitement, anticipation, new experiences.
What I love about sex, giving oral etc; is the female orgasm and it’s complexity. I feed off it, ride the wave, I love the endorphins.
But now I can have all that mediative and spiritual like experience on my own (or with partner). I have back taken control and it feels great!
First Aneros, not a beginner
Hello, I have an Njoy wand, Njoy pfun plug, and vixskin buck dildo (2″). I can have orgasms with all three of these just different levels of intensity etc. I’m looking to try out an Aneros product but there are so many options. Being that i’m able to handle larger toys and not a beginner what would you recommend as the first Aneros?
Helix or progasm?
I need some help choosing between the helix trident and progasm ( or ice).
I am no stranger to anal play so the size would not be an issue. I have used dildos and plugs for years and have always been interested in the elusive super O. I have an njoy pure wand but just couldn’t get it to do much other than force precum out. I was definitely going too hard.
I recently went through mindgasm for about a month and am finally realizing the muscles and sensation I should be looking for. I have had a lot of success after reading posts on the aneros sub. The do nothing method works great to get movement started. I have a knockoff toy that is similar to shape of the helix but larger. I can get involuntaries to start very regulary and now have full body shakes but not a whole lot of pleasure. I think the toy is just too long. I am relatively short just under 5’7″ (170cm). My main worry with the progasm is that it won’t hit the right spot. Would the helix be a better first choice? I can really only get one right now but eventually I’d like to have both.
I’d appreciate any suggestions or input.
Losing control
Update at the bottom.
Long post, thanks again to all who read and respond.
Always knew there was something back there, so I finally joined the club about year ago. Great fun, slowly re-wiring since I can’t play often…family, 3 kids, time is not my friend.
Had to travel for work recently, so I finally had some alone time. Took my toys, had a great few days. No super, maybe dry O’s for first time. And I can now HFWO every other time.
I even realized the progasm is the wrong tool for me. Gave me great pleasure, but its a jackhammer, and I end up wet and then sore every time. So I threw it out, and I might do the same with my MGX since it also doesn’t feel like it moves. If that makes sense.
Haven’t been able to play for a couple weeks. Now, the losing control….it’s like my body doesn’t belong to me this week. Almost like I broke a nerve or something. Is this normal?
I ride bike, a lot. Love everything about it, even the tight cycling clothes if I’m honest. I work hard to be fit and it’s a turn on to wear in public and catch people checking me out. I do get the odd erection, but in 20yrs on a bike I have never had an orgasm in the saddle. I’ve had two on my peloton this week, both wet. Yes I know the seat can put pressure on the sweet spot, but this has NEVER happened to me before. Second time I was soft and it was less than 5 min after I got on the bike. WTF?
Should I cut the tab of my Progasm Ice?
So I’ve been using the Helix Trident for a while, but I always felt it was not big enough, compared to other prostate massagers I have. So I bought the Progasm Ice Red, but I couldn’t enjoy a bit.
All because of the P tab, or however it’s called, the handle that rests on the perineum. It applied a pressure, that was not pleasurable at all, but it was painful instead. It was a sharp pain that was extremely distracting, and well, painful.
It feels so antinatural compared to the Helix, and the fact that is hard plastic instead of silicone makes it so much worse. In fact I think the whole thing would be better if it was silicone instead of plastic.
So I was wondering if I’m doing something wrong, or if there’s a workaround for it, like adding some extra cushion or whatever, or if it’s ok if I just cut it off.
But as it is right now, it’s just impossible to wear for more than 5 minutes.
What to try next?
Dealing with session VOLUME
What do you do about the volume? Any tips on how to have a session in a family house?
I love my aneros, but one obstacle I have is muting the natural volume of building toward a Super O. I have kids and other people in my house. I can’t be yelling and grunting at full volume. The suppression of volume slows my build.
Rarely am I able to get away 100% by myself.
Anyone else struggle with this? Tips?
Considered myself orgasmic, then got a new toy and had a brand new experience
A few months ago I started having what I consider to be orgasms while using my MGX and Eupho. It’s been glorious and I’ve been playing almost every night. The feeling I get is basically the sensation that I’m right on the edge of orgasm, then everything clenches up and I feel pleasure in my internal muscles that lasts for like 15-30 seconds (I can’t tell) and usually rolls into another orgasm in my PC muscles if I give them a few squeezes during the previous orgasm. During my PC orgasm it almost feels like I’m cumming but not quite. And during the height of my sessions these orgasms can continue rolling into each other. In the end though, I still feel the desire to cum and like I never really “got over the edge.” It’s strange to feel like I’m orgasming but also not satisfying that itch to cum. (Because the orgasm is a totally different type than a traditional penile orgasm). Overall the sessions are wonderful and I’ve been really happy with how things are going, while also knowing that there’s more out there.
But then…
This last week I decided to get a new toy. The Maximus trident. I wanted it because it’s shorter but also thicker than the Eupho, and I thought it would put more pressure in the right areas.
Advice on first model for experienced user.
I’ve been wanting to buy an aneros for a long time now, but because of the price and my financial situation I would only be purchasing one.
With so many models I am unsure of what model to purchase.
At the moment I am leaning toward the progasm as I enjoy larger sized objects, but I’m concerned it may not be as good for the g spot stimulation in comparison to something like the helix for example.
I am looking for something I can use solo and practice for prostate orgasm entirely hands free, I enjoy a fuller feeling of something a bit thicker, I do have a lot of experience with butt stuff in general as I have cheaper prostate stimulators and I occasionally do pegging with my wife.
If anyone could help me with a recommendation that would be great
Eupho Syn
Honestly I’m just not sure if I’m like following the directions right. This is 100% true, I purchased the njoy pure wand and really stopped having success with it. But I just purchased the eupho syn and it doesn’t do much for me on its own. Like if I’m not manipulating it somehow, it feels super good but have never really had any desire to try to use it completely handsfree, like many on this sub do. But if I start fucking myself with it or just using one hand to put some pressure on my prostate, I have a wet orgasm within about 5 minutes handsfree. Every time.