The Big Change (3 sub-sessions)

Session #4. (The "Big Change" session) This post is a journal of three 'sub-sessions' that alternated between the Helix (with a 'tab cover') and the SGX. Total time was 135 minutes. 5/15/09

Session #4a: Giving up on contractions Helix. Over an hour

This is probably what most guys manage in Session #1 or #2. I just move at snail speed.

I had planned this as a Friday afternoon adventure but was awakened at 2 a.m. by someone scratching on my arm (wasn't the dog!) So, being an 'all-american' gent I made the wrong assumption and asserted myself (she said, "not now and maybe, not anytime today.") So, there we were at 2 a.m., wide awake with fresh coffee and, sense there's little chance for sex, I'm trying to negotiate a time slot for some solo Helix-play. Also asking whether she wanted me to save some of life's essence to share after the Helix play. Or, should I just finish myself off after the session. Her answer was that my attitude appreared 'too academic' for her to get involved. She definitely didn't want an Aneros discussion and her tone was, 'testy.'

I decided to not 'shoot the wad' and would just enjoy the Aneros ride. Perhaps a couple of house bouquets in the afternoon would put me back in her good graces. (note to any reader under the age of 50: In a few years, skip long-stem roses and go for 'house bouquets.' Easy to get at a drive-through florist and the price is a fraction of what you'd pay for roses.) Read more »

Getting Started

I had a major turning point on Session #4 so have lumped the first three sessions together. These sessions didn't move very far through the Wiki list of milestones. But I smoothed out a lot of basics and learned what a contraction was.

Aside from the nuts and bolts of "session management" the big project was getting my wife OK with the idea of 'female orgasms for men' So, she is OK with it but, without penis work, she sees her role as 'non-existant.' Eventually I want her involved in nipple and torso work but that's still several sessions away.

Session #1 (the basics)

SGX then Helix. Pre-lube: 10cc K-Y jelly Tool lube: K-Y jelly 75 min. 5/7/09

For session #1 I skipped the shower/mood-adjustment and focused on running through the 'basics' in the instructions and in the Wiki. The prep was pretty straightforward but I over-did on the amount of rectal rinse. That left several ounces of excess water in my colon which later diluted the K-Y lube. (this, was to become a recurring theme — I just don't discharge the whole 4 ounces). I started doing basic contractions with the SGX to see how it played with my bph. While it did produce a generous amount of pre-cum, I didn't sense any major prostate pressure or stimulation during contractions.

Swapped to the Helix. Sensed definite prostate contact. Anal contractions produced a 'jabbing' feeling. The 'pleasure-to-discomrfort' (P2D) ratio wasn't great but was liveable. Read more »

How I stumbled in here

Blog, ground-zero. — how I stumbled in the door —

Early in 2009 my wife and I embraced the Oprah/Sue Berman/Dr. Oz approach to improve our g-spot batting average. That involved a set of Dr. Berman's training tools, maps, and techniques. Good stuff!

Then, at a 'Sex101' workshop for seniors, a local Urologist mentioned that the g-spot was just a "left-over chunk of prostate tissue common to both males and females… …both the g-spot and prostate had similar sensory characteristics and connections to the Central Nervous System." Soooo….., what was good for the Goose must be fair for the Gander.

Even though I have an 'itchy' prostate, my track record with anal-stim is poor. Most anal toys have given me a lousy "pleasure-to-discomfort ratio." All have settled to the bottom of our toy box or have gone out in the trash. Nevertheless, we searched the web stores for a new p-tool for couples. I chose a brand-name, modestly-sized p-vibe. It had a remote control so that my wife could occasionally goose me. (she thought the radio controlled model was…. 'tacky') LOL

Long story short: the 'p-vibe' wouldn't stay put. So, sayonara, vibe.

Then, off to the local toy and leather shop to find something that would stay in place and not have sharp edges. The counter person guaranteed that a Helix would stay put. Sold ! My wife gift-wrapped it. Read more »

Now I've really done it! (Aneros for BPH)

Quite a few months and posts back I posted a blog about a friend of mine suffering from BPH. Well thanks for all the suggestions and I finally had the balls to take Love_is suggestion and send him info on highisland.com Being guys and how we are brought up I just found this awkward. Well thanks Love_is because your suggestion worked out well. I wasn't sure if I was going to lose a longtime friend but that hasn't happened. I guess dealing with BPH and the now traditional "take these pills" method hasn't worked for him either. He stopped taking flomax because he had to make a decision between a sex life or BPH. He chose BPH. I did the same thing. Sex is just to important in my marriage and to me. So in my e-mail I just stated, "you can have both". I personally feel better and when we did talk about it I just told him because we're friends I wanted to pass this along but I was hesitant because something like this is pretty personal. I got a genuine thank you. So I guess it's only a matter of time before he finds me out here. Let's see how things go. This is a great forum and I feel like I have some partners in crime here! LOL LivingLarge (in my own small world)

Great Maintenance Orgasms

I have always also used my Aneros models for prostate massage specific treatment for my chronic Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia (BPH) and prevention of the previous occasional bouts of more or less serious Prostatitis. One episode of prostatitis a few years ago took 3 months of antibiotic lashings to cure.

Although I can also use Aneros as a an erection encourager at times for my medication induced Erectile Dysfunction (ED), that is a different circuit, rewired and expressed consciously as a different intention. Such are the needs of Aneros multitasking! 🙂

So a normal BPH treatment session has the objective of a good vigourous hands-free prostate massage to break up those micro-crystals and other debris molecules so they can be flushed out with the next ejaculation, thereby "clearing the pipes". This restores a full and easy flow of urine where it can have gotten congested, narrowed significantly, and uncomfortable from time to time. Thank you Aneros and HIH!

These sessions usually start off in bed with relaxation, insertion, more relaxation and some voluntary/involuntaries opening movements. Once the energetic magic is working, relatively soon, my prostate is seeking something more vigourous and I get up for a walk about the house, particularly up and down stairs! Boy, can that Eupho move and MASSAGE!!!

Up and down, in and out (at first), side to side, round and round as we go (dance!) up and down the stairs!. At the exercise area, some toe-touching is fantastic! Deep Strokes! Recently I added a good ten minute speed walk on the treadmill. Nothing like it! Read more »

Mistress Aneros gets her way…again!

I been on the Aneros super-highway for four short months and this morning was my best ever session. (Or should that be best session ever)? Minute after minute after minute of orgasmic pleasure. Muscle tensing, toe curling, fist clenching, hip thrusting, breath holding, panting, moaning, writhing, pleasure. When I tried to let go of my mild PC contraction mistress Aneros wouldn’t let me, she forced me to keep going… again and again she had her way with me. What finally brought my session to an end was the Staples delivery guy knocking on the door. Didn’t know if I should thank him of cuss him…. I did neither.

This session really surprised me as I didn’t expect much too happen because of a really crappy, non-sexual feeling, low esteem week. In the end I guess a week without the Aneros was what the mistress ordered, within moments of insertion small spasms of involuntaries started.

You know, I’ve really taken a liking to “roughing up” my Eupho. By “roughing up” I mean I rub the Eupho with a chunk of paraffin before I lube it up. The paraffin creates a slightly textured surface on the Eupho, makes it super easy to feel its subtle movements. And I’m not 100% sure about this, but I think the paraffin texture gives the sphincter a place to “grab onto” to better guide the Eupho’s movements. What works really well for me is to hold a gentle PC contraction, then either thrust or rotate my hips in order to rub the Eupho gently across my prostate. Mmmmmm… delicious! And one more thing, this Probe lube…it is the cats meow, no doubt about it. Read more »

Just another day at the office

Sometimes, long after all the sessions are complete, when I go to bed I just lay there and start the coaxing of the p-waves. First, I make sure I’m uncovered – no extraneous sensations. Then I find the right gentle contraction – all I know is its not the pc or bc muscle – I think it’s the cremaster muscle or something (Darwin would know) – it’s an outward inward pull push. Then it starts – the nice pressure, the creeping tingling. I don’t get them all over my body, I only get them were it counts, around the crotch. Then my peter starts to cycle up and down. Not throbbing. Pulsating. Just shy of twitching. It can cycle up and down like that for an hour and half – you just kind of have to throw common sense about sleep schedule out the window.

Makes me wish I knew more tricks. Like how to move the tingling around my body – maybe I should try to draw it up. I would not call these “immense pleasure waves”. They are immensely sensational – I don’t know, ‘cause I’ve never felt anything like it before. They are just my poor mans super-o. It is, after all, results. It’s just not orgasmic. It seems like I used to get involuntaries, but not so much anymore – just the good pressure and the p-waves. It’s like when its filling up with blood and the pulse beat follows from your pelvis up your peter (combined with p-wavyeous tingling) – but then it takes on a life of its own, asynchronous to your pulse beat. Read more »

Correlation?

So last nights Aneros session I noticed a correlation between when I got really aroused, my prostrate swelled in size, as did my nipples. My nipples became much more erect and sensitive as I played with them. I was surprised to realize this. Too bad it didn't last all that long. Makes me wonder if this is what women feel in their nipples when they are excited.

But it made me also think that perhaps these physical changes and sensations in my prostrate and nipples are the lead up to a super orgasm experience. Anyone care to comment?

For those who have not

I really like Probe lube. As a prep I have found it also good to clean out your colon. My first thing I do is to flush out with warm water. (not hot) I use an ear wax bulb but I am sure there are better devices but this works for me. I have found this to be one of the most important things to do. Not only does it clean you out but add some moisture. Moisture when mixed with Probe = slippery. I usually add about 6 to 8 CM of Probe after that using a medicine dropper you can get for free at Walgreens Pharmacy. I also find I have better results when sexual fasting for maybe 1 extra day. My favorite position is lying on my back. I do no contractions whatsoever. My prostate seems to clamp around the Aneros and I just lay there focusing on that feeling and things seem to get going with no effort. The Aneros seems to get drawn in on its own but I think it’s my prostate reacting to the slight pressure being applied to it. It requires great patience at first, before you experience your first prostate orgasm but once you understand how things go the "ride" getting there is half the fun. I know now where I am going so I just enjoy the total ride. The road becomes well traveled and familiar. I know I AM going to get there. Before your first prostate orgasm you want to make it happen which doesn't work. I enjoy Eupho. I don't know what it is about that one. It was the third one I purchased. I had already had my first prostate orgasm but for some reason the Eupho hits my sweet spot and opens the door to many WILD rides. I would never have believed that each device yields different feelings. I am a huge advocate of using several models during a session. It’s what pushed me over the edge. I guess the bottom line here is to prep…and plenty of lube. Make sure you have some alone time and don’t try too hard. I have never had a prostate orgasm while walking or sitting in a chair or any way else other than lying down. It does yield some good feelings though. Also anything that obstructs the movement of the Aneros (such as sitting in a chair) hasn’t worked for me. Good luck to all who haven’t experienced a prostate orgasm. This has added a wonderful new dimension to my sex life. Remember: Enjoy the ride!! AIN’T LIFE GRAND

EVOLGING

After an initial success with the aneros and taking some time off Im back with mistress aneros. I bought myself eupho and probe lubricant which I saw a lot of recomedations for mmmm cant wait to try it all out.

I havent had a lot of progress lately with mind blowing orgasms, rather the contratry, the peak moments are backing up a little bit. But Im extremly happy with the discovery of this world of orgasm (slowly doing KSMO too). One thing that surprised me the other day is that I got turned on and started slowly manualy pulling peridise in and out and to my surprise got a very short but very strong orgasm, like a hammer. There are orgasms all over the body waiting to be unlocked.

My experience is being more internal.
– Im four days into a ejaculatory fasting, and doing some traditional tantric (pc squeeze) here and there, and the aneros. The energy inside of my seems to be building up.
– My state of mind is becoming plesant. My emotions are starting to unwind themselves. Im having a natural high all day, mellow but present.
– Orgasmic waves (or whatever you want to call them) are coming and going through my body all day.
– I definitely have feelings of Kundalini awakening. Ive had them before by accident but through this practice and training I seem to be able to take hold of the process and am able to play and build up the energies of the body
– Im generally more at ease with myself and my libido and erections have incresed (I have a bit of ed and low libido btw)
– Things seem new. Im becoming more playful and loving with people. Going back to being a younger more inocent and vulnerable me.
– Its easier and more natural not to judge things and not to criticise and feel jealousy towards others.
– A lot of these sensations are sublte but present non the less