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Still blocked

Things got worse.

Its been several days now since I have been able to 'cross over' into an orgasm. I can still bring on good feelings but I'm getting less and less inclined to even try now because it's so disappointing and I expect failure. Today I have only tried a couple of times. I have posted on the forum and had some reassuring comments but it's my problem and no-one can really help.

I have been very low about this. The last time I can remember feeling anything like this was when I split from my first girlfriend and I had huge pangs of loss seeing anything that reminded me of her. I feel like that reading about peoples successes on here or when I think about my experiences last week. That alternates with feelings of positivity that I can do it or simply just trying to forget about it.

This is truly psychological. I can do everything else and get so close I'm actually slipping into an orgasm but my mind sabotages it every time. I get to the point of starting to shake, I feel as if the feelings are spreading, I keep breathing into it, and last week and would have been off on a super-O, now I have a feeling that it's not going to happen and it doesn't.

I have lots of theories for why I am blocked, or it could be a combination: Read more »

Blocked again?

I had sex with my wife for the first time in months last night. My erection was instant and harder than I remember it ever being even when I was a teenager, and when I came it was stronger than previously, she even commented on how strong it felt.

I haven't managed to have a prostate orgasm for a few days now. I have sort of lost interest a little bit in a good way )have to get on with normal life(, although I'm not sure how I feel really. It was so intense last week I'm almost pleased to feel a bit less addicted. I have tried to bring on an orgasm several times but not really succeeded.

I'm really trying to analyse how to 'cross over' into an orgasm. I can get so close within moments of trying but actually turning it into an orgasm is proving elusive. Thinking back to when I had my first super-O I had not cum for 3 days, and had masturbated several times without climaxing, so there must have been some sexual tension there to start with. I was then so excited about what I had experienced that it just sort of carried on and I didn't even question my ability to go into a super-O for a few days and on the second day I even had an A-less orgasm within minutes of trying.
Two nights of super-Os made me tired, then I couldn't make it work and I got over emotional about that and couldn't sleep, I was working long hours, and it's been hit and miss since and I haven't really caught up with sleep. I have had to lower my expections.

Long week

I felle as if I am finally starting to integrate my new found ability with normal life. Today is the first day that I haven't been constantly thinking about my next super-O and worrying whether it is going to happen.
After a long week and long hours at work I am as usual very tired. I really think that I will just sleep tonight so it will be first day without a super-O. Maybe not a bad thing I feel a bit more in control now.

Tell me what you remember about…

I have difficulty maintaining journals and blogs, but I do enjoy writing them. The tension between creating an accurate, clinical record of events and embellishing them into a readable narrative creates a unique thrill. I think this one deserves to start with a splash of personal history.

Anal play has always been a part of my sexual life. Long ago, while hanging out at a girlfriend's house after school, she abruptly told me to take off my pants and lay down on my stomach. I asked for some explanation, and she revealed a long, fat, tapered candle she had silently retrieved from the dining room. My eager compliance with her demand frightened both of us a little. Our second penetrative experience together was, in two ways, a literal inversion of the first.

I first learned about aneros through a written story many years ago–so many that it might have been in a print magazine. The story was told in the perspective of a man in a BDSM relationship. His domina plugged a bizarrely curled plastic dong she named “aneros” into him, then issued a series of commands to tense and release his sphincter. He repeatedly begged for permission to orgasm, but she ordered him not to. Predictably, the story ended with a moment of disobedience and a fountain of semen.

The story planted the name of the apparatus in my mind. The hands-free orgasm was less interesting than being able to cum in quarts. After all, ejaculation is the whole point of orgasm, and more of one must mean more of the other, right? Read more »

Is anyone here locked in chastity?

I am a newbie to all of this but my first Aneros is coming on Tuesday. I have been reading and researching but I can't wait to really get to try! I read that it helps to abstain from ejaculatory orgasm but I am wondering if this seems to be most people's experience? I personally am locked in a chastity cage for my girlfriend 24/7 and I am wondering if my extended denial may help me in my Aneros journey! I have a very cheap prostate stimulator but I have not had a serious amount of pleasure with it, hence the reason for starting my Aneros journey.

The first session.

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Just so I don't set up bad expectations for people looking to get into things with an Aneros, let me set down the ways in which I had kind of a leg up on getting the most out of the Aneros experience. And there are quite a few ways.

I have been maintaining kegel muscle tone through casual use for about 15 years

I have experienced hands-free orgasm before without the aid of any sort of toy, tool, accessory, or substance

I am incredibly relaxed person–massages do nothing for me because there simply isn't any tension to massage out )side note, the bafflement of people who try to give me a massage anyway is priceless(

Since puberty my most frequently consumed sex-related viewing material by far is fairly academic in nature–I know a lot of things about a lot of parts, and a lot of ways to be safe in sexual situations, including ones that I frankly never plan to be involved in

So, my girlfriend tripped across mention of the Aneros online, sent me the info, and so today I received my Helix Syn. What follows is a pretty detailed account of how I used it for the first time. Read more »

Had a lot of fun tonight with my girlfriend and a MGX.

Hey Reddit Aneros people,

I just started using an aneros again last night, after having purchased an MGX years ago and using it for a bit with limited success, and then sticking it a drawer to collect dust. I definitely had some pleasure using it, but not enough to keep my interest.

The main reason I decided to bring it out of retirement is that I finally have a girlfriend I feel comfortable enough with to bring up the idea of me using something like that with her.

I had enough fun with her and the MGX last night, that I went only and ordered two more models to try. The Helix Syn and the Progasm Jr. The MGX mostly seems good to me, but the narrow P-tab exerts an uncomfortable amount of pressure. I think I'm going to modify it if I keep using the MGX.

Earlier today we had talked about our thoughts on last night. My girlfriend was totally fine with me using the Aneros, but was a bit disappointed that I hadn't paid much attention to her the whole time I explained to her that I had been focusing on feeling new kinds of pleasure I'm not used to, but that I would be sure to pay more attention to her tonight.

I jump started this by getting us unclothed and starting to kiss and caress her body. I like to have her lay facing away from me like we're spooning. I kiss her neck and run my hands lightly up and down the front of her body. I also breath and whisper into her ear. Read more »

Saturday Morning Syn

I woke up Saturday morning in the mood for a session, so I got up, took a shower and cleaned myself inside and out. My Helix Syn was already in the bathroom so I thought I would go ahead and insert it so as not to disturb my girlfriend, who I thought was still sleeping. All the lube supplies were in the bedroom, so I searched to see what was available in the bathroom. Ended up finding some petroleum jelly and vitamin E oil, so went with that…

To this point, I have had limited success with the Helix Syn. It was my first Aneros device, and was lucky to experience some minor contractions and sensations on only it's second use, but it was nowhere in comparison to the experiences with the Tempo and Progasm Jr.

Helix Syn inserted, into bed, I start by relaxing and just clearing my mind of everything, including the Helix Syn inside me. I find if I try and concentrate on it too soon, I clench up and things just don't move along. Instead of then starting out with the Kegel exercises, I like to use slow gentle hip thrusts to try and move the Helix up and down over my prostrate. The slower the better, you can also incorporate slow breathing to help further manipulate the device in rhythm with your hip movements. Read more »

Curious about the Tempo!

Having some limited success )first 2 sessions( with the Helix Syn and over the top Super-Os with the Progasm Jr, I was curious how the Tempo would do, so naturally that was the plan for last night. I lubed up and the Tempo slid right in without much of a fight from me. Really didn't feel it like the PJ )Progasm Jr.(, but I could tell it was there. It just barely touches the prostate and the muscles around it, so it sort of tickles, or at least that is as close to describing the sensation as I can. Within a few minutes, I can feel the waves starting to build. Unlike the PJ, it wasn't WHAM! It was more like a freight train in the distance down the track, you could sense it coming, but couldn't judge the speed. The waves slowly built up until suddenly WHAM, WHAM, WHAM, I was doubled over again in contractions, my month was opened, but I couldn't speak or yell. I keep mouthing the word wow wow wow. It must have gone on for 30 minutes, slow build up, then POW, a number of super-o's in a row. I was doing almost nothing, not thinking of anything in particular, not doing any exercises, just enjoying the ride from the Tempo!

My girlfriend comes in and I tell her that I have "borrowed" her Tempo, and she can see that I'm convulsing, she comes to bed and says, "you're hot". But of course, I've already had a 30 minute workout! Read more »

Progasm Jr and Tempo — A whole new level for couples!

Not completely satisfied with the Helix Syn, due mainly to my penchant for being a gadget freak more than anything, I decided to stop by a local Adult toy store and pick up a Progasm Jr and Tempo.

I was very fortunate to experience some mini-Os with the Helix Syn on only the 2nd session, but was not prepared for the immediate results offered by the Progasm Jr! Quick lesson here, if you have not experienced any results with another model, TRY THE PROGASM JR!

As before, I told my girlfriend I was going to lay down, relax and "start my therapy", to which this time she did not roll her eyes!

While the Helix Syn is not compatible with silicone lubes, the Progasm Jr is, which is fortunate as it is slightly bigger and longer than the Helix Syn. So this time used the silicone lube on the PJ )Progasm Jr(. Laid down at 9:40PM with my relaxing music, and again started out on my stomach. IN LESS THAN 5 minutes, the contractions started coming in waves, each set getting stronger and stronger. I have up to this point not done anything, no movement, no exercises, the PJ just "knows" where to go and immediately pushes my easy button! Read more »