Tag: Perineum

Multiples and Marathons

I share these observations in case someone else might learn something new or useful from them. Am only a beginner, but think I've got a pretty advanced read on what's going on "down there" (and in our heads too) during these amazing experiences.

So, my previous entry mentioned finally learning how to (basically but undeniably) come on Saturday afternoon/day six. Saturday night (i.e., after many hours of intervening sleep), I learned how to "work it."

Had seven orgasms, five of which kept topping the previous as the most outstanding of my life. Fascinating to have read "each orgasm will have a different character" in the documentation, but then to really experience it for oneself. Frankly, orgasm has not been so interesting to me for a very long time – the last couple of years (with my FleshLight) have been preoccupied with brinkmanship and plateaus. But the lessons and muscle memory of that previous study is paying off now in a couple of significant ways.

First, a "love of brinksmanship" delivers radical new rewards in this hands-off context. With "hands-on brinking," there's always the constant struggle not to tip over the line, but with the Aneros(es), it's really easy not to release. Thus, my earlier orgasms of Sat night were "as soon as possible," but eventually learned that there's no rush. Or rather, a tremendously longer rush! One of them surprised me by feeling like minutes of coming, until finally a slight dip in sensation, and then the enormous release. Read more »

A New Use for an Old Porn Standard

Plan to blog much more about this fantastic new experience, but this first entry just wants to share a great arousal discovery I made last night/this afternoon.

It was night 5 last night and day 6 this afternoon of "my Aneros enlightenment." Had napped for a couple of hours (after going ALL night) with the Eupho inserted, and woke up and got back to it.

Throughout my first week, orgasms seemed dubious. Was quite sure I'd been close to a Super-O, effectively finding my way "within its perimeter," but surely hadn't broken through to one. But the "regular" orgasms were much more confusing. Couldn't feel sure if I'd had them or not. Many episodes of extremely heightened arousal seemed to just tucker out, with a sense of relief from the tension but not the euphoria I'd associate with orgasm.

Isn't it interesting how we men are learning to understand the journey of women who haven't discovered their own orgasms yet? We are trying to find our way to an experience we can't imagine, find a potential that's hard-wired into our bodies but with no muscle memory that knows the way. Thus, I think my "are these orgasms?" above correspond very directly with the sexual experience of many young women. (And in both cases, the answer turns out to be no.) Read more »

dreaming the dream O

This is my first entry on this site. Although I have been blogging on the Ksmo site. Just finished session couple hours ago. Inserted helix lubed and stimed. Erection was not long, helix took over, a couple of milk drops. IT was 3:30pm good for a nap, just got in from work. Partner out sunning reading trying to finish a book. Ksmo'd and slipped into the zone so I knew this had potential. Wave on wave of blissful o's drifted into a dream. I was on a pedestal covered with white sheets enjoying the blissful waves. I felt a little chilled and pulled up one of the sheets around my shoulders. I drifted again but I was stirred by some energetic spasms in my legs. I realized at that point I was lying on my bed with NO sheets at all! The recognition brought an inner smile wouldn't dare disturb the zone I was in. Had no Idea what time it was, my partner can in the bdrm and announced it was 7pm. This was the first session past 1.5 hrs., I had read that it can takes atleast that long in the beginning. I have been active since the 1st of the year. Needless to say that this was a great affirmation of the guidance that is available here and with Jack at Multiples.com. I'm sitting here at 9:30pm my perineum is gently pulsing the beat, as the waves continue through out my body. What a time to be alive!

Back in the saddle again! :D

It appears my Aneros lull has ended. I had an amazing session last night! I had the most amount of pre-cum on me that I've ever seen. And I could feel my prostate swell with arousal several different times within the session. I also felt some tingly pleasure in my prostate a few times also. Rather than just around my anus and perineum. That was really nice. I think I experienced some new highs in pleasure during this session.

As to why this lull happened? Depression and personal growth are the two main things. But also I noticed that when I was last having pleasurable sensations from Aneros sensations, I think close to a month ago. I was concentrating on the completely relax approach. And what I've found out recently is that I completely stopped doing any conscious anal and PC contractions both within and outside of an Aneros session. So I recently started doing them again. And just within a few days… Boom! Pleasure again! So for me, it seems that doing the conscious contractions are important.

There was much for me to learn during my Aneros lull though. Masturbation was rare. And when I did, I had to tell myself that it is ok to have pleasure, and that I deserve it. And I had to really practice on focusing on the sensations and any erotic fantasies to allow me to be excited to ejaculate. Sound familiar? LOL Eventually as I did this more and started doing the anal and PC contractions… Sensitivity, pleasure, and desire for it returned. Read more »

The Big Change (3 sub-sessions)

Session #4. (The "Big Change" session) This post is a journal of three 'sub-sessions' that alternated between the Helix (with a 'tab cover') and the SGX. Total time was 135 minutes. 5/15/09

Session #4a: Giving up on contractions Helix. Over an hour

This is probably what most guys manage in Session #1 or #2. I just move at snail speed.

I had planned this as a Friday afternoon adventure but was awakened at 2 a.m. by someone scratching on my arm (wasn't the dog!) So, being an 'all-american' gent I made the wrong assumption and asserted myself (she said, "not now and maybe, not anytime today.") So, there we were at 2 a.m., wide awake with fresh coffee and, sense there's little chance for sex, I'm trying to negotiate a time slot for some solo Helix-play. Also asking whether she wanted me to save some of life's essence to share after the Helix play. Or, should I just finish myself off after the session. Her answer was that my attitude appreared 'too academic' for her to get involved. She definitely didn't want an Aneros discussion and her tone was, 'testy.'

I decided to not 'shoot the wad' and would just enjoy the Aneros ride. Perhaps a couple of house bouquets in the afternoon would put me back in her good graces. (note to any reader under the age of 50: In a few years, skip long-stem roses and go for 'house bouquets.' Easy to get at a drive-through florist and the price is a fraction of what you'd pay for roses.) Read more »

Getting Started

I had a major turning point on Session #4 so have lumped the first three sessions together. These sessions didn't move very far through the Wiki list of milestones. But I smoothed out a lot of basics and learned what a contraction was.

Aside from the nuts and bolts of "session management" the big project was getting my wife OK with the idea of 'female orgasms for men' So, she is OK with it but, without penis work, she sees her role as 'non-existant.' Eventually I want her involved in nipple and torso work but that's still several sessions away.

Session #1 (the basics)

SGX then Helix. Pre-lube: 10cc K-Y jelly Tool lube: K-Y jelly 75 min. 5/7/09

For session #1 I skipped the shower/mood-adjustment and focused on running through the 'basics' in the instructions and in the Wiki. The prep was pretty straightforward but I over-did on the amount of rectal rinse. That left several ounces of excess water in my colon which later diluted the K-Y lube. (this, was to become a recurring theme — I just don't discharge the whole 4 ounces). I started doing basic contractions with the SGX to see how it played with my bph. While it did produce a generous amount of pre-cum, I didn't sense any major prostate pressure or stimulation during contractions.

Swapped to the Helix. Sensed definite prostate contact. Anal contractions produced a 'jabbing' feeling. The 'pleasure-to-discomrfort' (P2D) ratio wasn't great but was liveable. Read more »

How I stumbled in here

Blog, ground-zero. — how I stumbled in the door —

Early in 2009 my wife and I embraced the Oprah/Sue Berman/Dr. Oz approach to improve our g-spot batting average. That involved a set of Dr. Berman's training tools, maps, and techniques. Good stuff!

Then, at a 'Sex101' workshop for seniors, a local Urologist mentioned that the g-spot was just a "left-over chunk of prostate tissue common to both males and females… …both the g-spot and prostate had similar sensory characteristics and connections to the Central Nervous System." Soooo….., what was good for the Goose must be fair for the Gander.

Even though I have an 'itchy' prostate, my track record with anal-stim is poor. Most anal toys have given me a lousy "pleasure-to-discomfort ratio." All have settled to the bottom of our toy box or have gone out in the trash. Nevertheless, we searched the web stores for a new p-tool for couples. I chose a brand-name, modestly-sized p-vibe. It had a remote control so that my wife could occasionally goose me. (she thought the radio controlled model was…. 'tacky') LOL

Long story short: the 'p-vibe' wouldn't stay put. So, sayonara, vibe.

Then, off to the local toy and leather shop to find something that would stay in place and not have sharp edges. The counter person guaranteed that a Helix would stay put. Sold ! My wife gift-wrapped it. Read more »

For those who have not

I really like Probe lube. As a prep I have found it also good to clean out your colon. My first thing I do is to flush out with warm water. (not hot) I use an ear wax bulb but I am sure there are better devices but this works for me. I have found this to be one of the most important things to do. Not only does it clean you out but add some moisture. Moisture when mixed with Probe = slippery. I usually add about 6 to 8 CM of Probe after that using a medicine dropper you can get for free at Walgreens Pharmacy. I also find I have better results when sexual fasting for maybe 1 extra day. My favorite position is lying on my back. I do no contractions whatsoever. My prostate seems to clamp around the Aneros and I just lay there focusing on that feeling and things seem to get going with no effort. The Aneros seems to get drawn in on its own but I think it’s my prostate reacting to the slight pressure being applied to it. It requires great patience at first, before you experience your first prostate orgasm but once you understand how things go the "ride" getting there is half the fun. I know now where I am going so I just enjoy the total ride. The road becomes well traveled and familiar. I know I AM going to get there. Before your first prostate orgasm you want to make it happen which doesn't work. I enjoy Eupho. I don't know what it is about that one. It was the third one I purchased. I had already had my first prostate orgasm but for some reason the Eupho hits my sweet spot and opens the door to many WILD rides. I would never have believed that each device yields different feelings. I am a huge advocate of using several models during a session. It’s what pushed me over the edge. I guess the bottom line here is to prep…and plenty of lube. Make sure you have some alone time and don’t try too hard. I have never had a prostate orgasm while walking or sitting in a chair or any way else other than lying down. It does yield some good feelings though. Also anything that obstructs the movement of the Aneros (such as sitting in a chair) hasn’t worked for me. Good luck to all who haven’t experienced a prostate orgasm. This has added a wonderful new dimension to my sex life. Remember: Enjoy the ride!! AIN’T LIFE GRAND

The cycle of pleasure (Ain't life grand)

Ok so it's been awhile since my first super o and I have observed several things during this journey. The first is that I change over time which Aneros toy is my favorite. I started with the Helix and used that for over 1 year with great sensations but no super o. I then bought a Progasm but it ended up in my drawer for more than 6 months. I was thinking it was to large and to tell the truth I was afraid I might break something (and I'm not talking about the Progasm) so into storage it went. But after all it is the tool that pushed me over the edge. I have purchased the Eupho and this little bugger has really shown me what the Aneros toys are all about. Eupho never fails me. This one gets me so hot and sensitive that no matter what toy I use after it I continue to get orgasm after orgasm. It's the key that opens the door. I always start with Eupho. I hardly touch my Helix any more. Another thing I have notice is that I can go 2 or 3 weeks but then a week will come along where where I seem 5 times more sensitive. My orgasms are super intense for no paticular reason. God I love those weeks!! I can't always tell when this will happen it just does. Relaxation seems to be the key. I had a guest here recently and I knew I had to be quiet so I concentrated on being relaxed. WOW, were the results amazing. The Eupho just took over with a life of it's own. It seemed the more I relaxed the more intense it became. Switching to Progasm continued the intensity build. I really love the Eupho. It is my toy of choice. I have also messed with e-stim. I have found e-stim at the end of a session can prolong the session. In my opinion e-stim should be used at very low levels, almost so you can't even feel it. I like to place a pad on my perineum right where my prostate is and the other pad behind one knee. This gives me pumping orgasms with no ejaculate. I like very low power. High power can make me cum but it's not a intimate as the Aneros toy alone. For some reason I feel better not using high power. This has been alot of fun. Believe it or not the intensity keeps getting better and better. My sessions seem to be getting shorter though. I now go over the edge faster but everything seems much more intense. My longest sessions have been about 1 hour lately. I do not complain, I am more satisfied and I seem to be having more WOW sessions. For those who haven't had great results try a Eupho and plenty of lube. LivingLarge (in my own small world)

Swirling Vortex of Pleasure

A long delayed update: since my first super-o in January, I had another one in March. This one went a little better since I had no fear going in. I had a third super-o last weekend.

The fact that I've had three super-os in the last four months might say something. You have to be in the right physical and mental state to get them. For me it happens about once a month, giving new meaning to the phrase "that time of month." I think I'd even classify getting into them as forming a state of self-hypnosis within yourself. It's certainly a lot more mental than physical. Most of the sessions last two hours at the most, generally an hour or less.

The one from last weekend was interesting. I was about an hour into having some fabulous mini-os and long lasting p-waves. Things were getting to a state where I was super horny and could guide the MGX so it sat in THE right spot. I was in a super relaxed state and started picturing my midsection as an abstract mass of churning, swirling matter slowing spinning around – like some kind of super erotic galaxy. Soon enough, I was over the edge and into a different kind of super-o. It felt really good, and in a strangely different way than I'd normally associate with the sexual. A swirling vortex of pleasure, if you will! Read more »