I am a 45 year old straight guy who suffers from occasional hemorrhoids. I have up until this point never really done much anal play. I have experimented here and there with fingers but never got anything out of it and thought it just was not for me. I am fairly open about sex but just never got much from anal play. Recently though I ran across the Aneros site after reading about it while browsing /sex, which, by the way, not sure you younger guys realize just what a treasure having all this info at your fingertips is. Wish I had that resource when I hit puberty! At any rate. After reading about the therapeutic effects of prostate massage and it's benefits, that it helps with prostate health, hemorrhoids, and the awesome pleasure, I decided to give it a try. I bought a few cheap massagers but none of them did much of anything. After browsing Aneros for awhile, I decided to try one out. I bought a Helix Syn and have had 10 or so sessions with it in the last month or so. I am in a relationship and have not shared this with my wife yet, though if it goes well, I will. Just not ready to share this yet. That does limit the times I have to play around with it. The first session I immediately got mild P-waves, which, while not close to intense, was a result I had never gotten before. Second session more P-waves at about the same intensity. Both times it started off well and then tapered away as I tried to control things or focused on form too much. Some sessions not much of anything happened, then the last few sessions things seemed to progress a bit. One session I had my first involuntaries, which were interesting but not necessarily pleasurable. Then the last session I seemed to zero in more on which muscles to use and which ones to relax and felt the first stirrings of good sensation, including Pwaves, involuntaries and the tingling. All were fleeting and only happened a few times, but I see progress. reading this sub, the forums on Aneros and the Wiki really helped. The Tug of War method from the Wiki was what helped with the correct muscles to use and I noticed that the less is more approach really helped. I am just fighting a lifetime of muscle memory from traditional orgasms and sex but I can see where the rewiring comes in. Quite awhile back I discovered nipple play and that has been fantastic and the wife takes full advantage of it as do I. That definitely seems to help. My usual method is to wait until after a BM, then get out the Helix and lube up with Vaseline, Coconut oil and water based lube. I do plan on ordering unrefined Shea Butter to see how that works. I have tried lots of positions. The best results seem to come from being on my back with a pillow under my butt, knees straight up with feet on the bed. Standing, walking, sideways or on all fours did not seem to do much of anything. I can tell that I need to strengthen muscles that have seem little use ever to get further down the road. I am excited about the journey. I would love to hear from other older men on their experiences getting started with prostate massage and what worked for them. I wish I had come across this when I was younger and orgasms were still mind blowing experiences. As I have gotten older they have lessened in intensity and I find myself trying to find more and more ways to turn things on, though things are still quite enjoyable. Looking forward to the path ahead!
Tag: Involuntaries
Third session – a quickie
Wow! What a difference a day makes!
After the disappointment of my 2nd session, I wanted to give myself some time before I tried again. But my anus had different ideas. The prostate soreness that I had experienced during the 2nd session was completely gone, and in fact it was feeling pretty good. My anus wanted, nay, it demanded something to fill it, NOW! So we compromised; a short session of only 30 minutes on the very next day after the frustrating and long 2nd session.
Expectations – 30-minute time limit; hands-off )like every other session(; quick and dirty; start with voluntary contractions and then back off
TSLE – about 8 days
The only difference in preparation between this session and the previous session was that this time I didn’t inject any glycerin-based lube.
After bowel movement, enema, and insertion of the Helix, I went straight to a 4-on-the-floor position; on knees and elbows, head down, ass up. I considered that by waiting/relaxing I was letting my arm tremor start to dominate my attention. So, after a few deep breaths, I start slow-rolling sphincter/PC contractions. Bingo! – instant perineal contractions progressing to full-body involuntary contractions, lasting 10-12 minutes. Again, I just observed, watched the spasms grow, recede, and return spontaneously. Purely involuntary. It was awesome. The spasms would recede until they were just in my groin, and then the sphincter/PC involuntary contractions would escalate, amplifying each other, until they set off another round of full-body contractions. Is this auto-f*cking? A definite pre-cum feeling, but without an erection or any actual pre-cum.
The Mighty Super-O! (Sorry it’s long)
I finally created an account after lurking for a few years, i have wanted to for awhile and for some reason decided that i would wait untill i acheived the Super-O. Achievement Unlocked! I'll start by saying that i am in no way new to anal play (small town gay kid, not much to do haha) I bought my first Aneros (Progasm Jr) about 4 months ago and almost immediately got to the point of having P-waves and involuntaries which was fantastic, but i knew i could go higher and there was no way my sexual curiosity was going to let me stay complacent. I started trying all kinds of things starting with reading a lot on the forums and on reddit about what other people were doing. I tried laying on my back, side, stomach, doggy style, sitting in a chair, standing and breathing really deeply, standing against a wall, standing with one foot propped up on a chair, really hard contractions, really soft contractions, no contractions (do nothing method) Nothing was getting me over the edge so i said screw it and bought the Progasm Classic, i think its a full inch longer than the Jr but im not sure, and some different lube. The Progasm got me ever closer and i also started inviting the only girl i have ever had the hotts for to my sessions, Mary Jane. 1 week ago today as i sat at my desk i could just tell that tonight is the night. When i got home from work i did things around the house and played with my dog untill he fell asleep all the while i knew "tonight's the night" i headed to my room and as soon as my door shut i started ripping of my clothes lubed up and inserted Mr Progasm ( whom i nicknamed Grant by the way) and right as i laid down i realized that i had forgot to take a puff before i started so i reached for my dugout and took a couple big rips. i laid on my right side and just waited for the weed to take effect and right as i started to feel it i started with light contractions, then a little harder. the pressure started to build and i just focussed in on the feeling and kept steady on my contractions. Building, building holy, shit this feels good, my hands were running all over my body, everything was like it was amplified to the max, i was so in tune with what was going on with my body it was incredible. I noticed that i couldn't control my breathing, i was gasping from the pleasure that was coming from my ass, I knew i it wasnt a Super-O yet but remember "tonight's the night" The pleasure was still building and at this point i was already practically comatose, then all of a sudden my eyes (not kidding) rolled back into my head and i knew i was there. it was Absolutely insane, so much so that i had to grab a shirt from my bedroom floor to stick in my mouth to muffle the moans ( i have roommates) i dont know how long it lasted but it wasnt long enough so when it subsided i started contracting and no more than two minutes later i had to grab my shirt again. This went on for an hour, an hour of sheer drooling, eyes rolling, i cant beleive this is real pleasure, i was a slave to it after i couldnt take anymore i pulled it out and cleaned up and just sat in the afterglow of it, i didn't jerk off, i didnt need to, totally satisfied but i started thinking about how i had inserted Grant before taking a rip of pot and if this had anything to do with it so i tried again the next night, insert before inhale and same thing happend ( Holy shit where's my shirt?!?!) I did this 5 nights in a row, each session lasting longer than the night before and last night was able to do it without smoking any pot!. Does anybody else feel like it's a lot easier once you've had your first one? Anyway thanks for reading my first post but not last post about my first but definetly not last SUPER-O!!!!
Newb's First Session
First session notes – wherein I expose my newb-ness
The Helix Syn came in the mail a few days ago along with the other supplies. I had about an hour and a half of uninterrupted privacy to look forward to, so I grabbed the chance to play.
Expectations – I just wanted to practice getting the Helix inside me and feel what it was like. I like CrimsonWolf's write-up about the do-nothing approach, but this time I just wanted to experiment. This was about 4 days after my last ejaculation.
• ROOKIE MISTAKE – A mistake even before I began? Yes, and I knew this going in. I wasn't aroused at all. I've read that the Aneros amplifies arousal, and if there is no arousal, then you can't really expect to feel anything. That was fine for this session; I just wanted to go through the mechanics.
I'm going to add some details so other newbies can follow along –
1. First, I stripped, and then had a bowel movement followed by an enema rinse )2 @ 4 oz warm water(. Probably not necessary, but I felt more comfortable this way.
2. I lubed my finger with some I.D. Glide, and smeared some around my perineum and into my anus. I scraped about a teaspoon of shea butter off the chunk I'd purchased, quickly rolled it into a bullet shape with lightly lubed fingers, and shoved it into my anus.
Intense A Less Session
The overwhelming winter weather we have had during February has necessitated a concentrated amount of snow shoveling in a relative short time span. The net result has been a “tender” lower back. Thankfully I am not immobilized but I have been dealing with the persistent ache of muscle strain in my lower back. For me, pain of any sort is most definitely a damper on my orgasmic agenda. Despite how horny I may be discomfort is a huge distraction for MMO pleasure. Consequently the last three weeks have been spotty for MMO sessions of any type; when I did have a session it was mediocre at best. Finally my back loosened up by the middle of last week and my libido was left unfettered to pursue whatever my anus and cock could dream up.
Last Friday night J and I celebrated the end of the week with a late night mutual masturbation session transitioning to 69 and culminating in mutual release. It was very erotic, one of our favorite ways to be intimate. I would say that we probably both prefer that to fucking, I can probably explain why but that is the stuff of another blog entry.
So when I went to bed Saturday night it was the night after a ball draining ejaculation. I have found that my sessions are exponentially more pleasurable if I do them within a day or so of a “clean out” climax. I also had been chatting on line with several guys over the week which left me highly aroused.
New user here and wondering if you guys can help me
Been using my Aneros since Feb, and so far I've had no luck. Not ready to give up yet but at the very least I want to know if I'm making progress… weird as that sound.
I've read the wiki (seriously there's a wiki for anything huh) more times than I could remember, but… theory and practice is pretty different IMO haha.
I've a lot of questions and no idea where to begin so I'll just write those at the top of my head now.
- Involuntary contraction: I suppose this is the thing that gets the whole motion going, but I haven't been able to do so consistently (if at all). I've tried contracting the external rectal muscle, the PC muscle (the muscle that you use to stop your pee haha), and still nothing. Do I have to contract it consistently, or do it occasionally, sorta like 'teasing' the internal muscle to contract involuntarily? The wiki said to go with small movement, but I can't even feel if I'm doing anything at all. How do I know when the involuntary contraction starts? I've read comments that the toy should be moving in and out on its own?
(NOTE: My knowledge of biology is abysmal at best and the terms I'm using is based on what I read so far so pardon my incorrect usage)
Having troubles with Helix Syn stopping moving when prostate is excited
Hi guys,
I am pretty new and got myself a Helix Syn about a month ago. I was getting some results with standing position with my hands on the sink and had a prostate orgasm and really strong contractions going with very pleasurable waves washing over me.
But during last 3 sessions when I get excited and expect the contractions to really start going, either my sphincter muscles start clenching or my prostate enlarges and Helix stops moving around. I can forcefully relax my sphincter, but still I need to make an effort to move the massager around, as it stops doing so by itself. 🙁
Did anyone encounter similar difficulties? I apply quite a bit of lube and it sort of slides freely back and forth at the beginning, but still gets stuck when I really get it going.
I tried both massaging the Aneros over my prostate with slow movements and simply standing relaxed and waiting for the contractions to start by themselves, but both times the result was that there's suddenly a lot less space inside the sphincter and it just isn't massaging prostate anymore.
Would you guys recommend to keep working on my muscle control or change my position instead? I was unable to get anything going past some tingling or pleasurable pressure when lying in bed (tried doggy and lying on my back, where it felt like Aneros wasn't touching prostate at all and nothing happened for 15 minutes or so, and tried lying on the side, where I could easily feel Aneros touching my prostate and the pleasurable feeling was building up slowly, but Aneros simply wasn't moving and I couldn't translate beyond occasional involuntary muscle clenching).
Pretty darn good second session (same day as first)
I decided to abstain from orgasm for a few days because I haven't done that in a while and it feels really nice when I finally let it out. About day 3…I was really horny and impulse bought a helix, and had to wait a few more days for shipping which was like torture because at this point I'm super excited to try this thing on top of being horny. When it finally arrived I had about an hour to try it out before other people came home. Long story short I was too excited and didn't get very far, but I'm really glad I didn't just decide to cum because later that day I had another chance to try it.
The second time I made a better attempt to relax and take it slow. I was laying on my bed with an eroge on my TV (Japanese erotic visual novel), using a controller and JoyToKey to control the mouse. I can understand plenty of Japanese for the voiced parts to make me really aroused. I relaxed for a while and then started slightly contracting. After a little while the pleasure started and I was able to hold onto it for a long time as long as I stayed aroused. During a few really sexy scenes I was able to get some really nice pleasure and leaking. I'm not sure but I think a had some involuntary contractions, or it was at least quivering when I slightly contracted. If I understand correctly that's why there's so much emphasis placed on small contractions. A couple of times I had a kind of double-vision and slight feeling of faint from the pleasure. I could make that feeling last a few seconds, but couldn't get to an orgasm. I kept going for about 2 hours. There was totally enjoyable pleasure the whole time as long as I stayed aroused and I just kept wanting to get to one more sexy scene to try to take it further. I have trouble visualizing and the visual novel helped tremendously. Eventually I decided to end the session and I really wanted to cum so I went for a super-T which felt amazing.
Got my 1st SUPER “0”
Since mt last blog i had been having some sessions with the Classic & in between also doing Kegels.I had been away from the sessions for a while & with the Kegel exercises i was enjoying quite strong wet orgasms and noted good & fuller ejaculations.I had wanted to go back to the Classic for more sessions and made a return to it just before Christmas.I was missing that nice “full feeling” experience of the Classic when its inside my anus..& also on the day i was also feeling quite hot & aroused, maybe with all the run-around that happens coming up to the Christmas. I did get a good lie-in on the day and was feeling very relaxed. It was strange but i felt a hunger for the Classic? I had a nice warm shower
and douche but the douching brought on an erection
in the shower. I did not want to cum so i kept cool and soon the erection subsided.It was in the afternoon so i got prepared for my session with the Classic. I have my sessions on the bed lying on my back,so i put out my pillows,towels,and everything else ready to hand. I have a nice comfy “T” shirt that i wear on top but from the waist down im naked. With pillows placed on the bed to raise my back & anus & with my legs apart i lubed up on my
hole and onto the Classic.Taking a deep breath & MMmmmmmmm -so nice feeling the Classic slide in..
My erotic thoughts were going thru my mind and as normal as it happens i got an erection. Wow was i feeling hot! I had experienced some waves of pleasure on my previous sessions but this time they were feeling more intense? I let these waves wash thru me and at the same time i was applying gentle anal contractions onto the classic.Unawares to me this action started to make these “new” wave patterns much more intense? I lay there engorged in this pleasure.As the waves peaked they made me moan. Now they started taking on a “cyclic” pattern
of their own! At peak level I moaned, i really did..
I just lay there -and let things happen! I never felt anything like this before..it kept going…
-the “recycling waves” of pure pleasure going right thru me. They would build deep in my pelvis and “burn-outwards” thru my whole body.. OOOOoooooooo.
The strangest thing then happened the Classic made an “involuntary spurt of contractions” I don’t know how this happened? all i do know is that shortly after this a fookin “HUGH” wave began to build!! My
erotic thoughts went into this “massive” buildup. This monster wave shook my whole being. It felt like an atomic bomb going off! I felt so hot and my face went contorted, my whole body went into an uncontrolled convulsion{s}( I could’nt breath properly? I really felt & thought i was going to suffocate… My tightly clenched fists gripped the bed! It forced me to CRY OUT… AAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGgggggggggg.. I was totally swamped in this so-called “SUPER 0” I remember as the massive waves peak feeling the Classic involuntary pumping inside of me! It was a total “out of body experience” I never-ever- felt anything like this!
With the strength of this “Super 0” it caused me to push my head deep into the pillow.When i recovered i looked to see if i had shot cum but there was’nt any {except some ooozing precum} WoW!
Recovery from bliss
I was advised that I would feel my Super-O for a few days and I have. This morning on the way to work my Perineum or "sweet spot" had a deep down tingle causing me to shift in my vanpool seat while I secretly grinned. An occasional involuntary contraction was added every once in awhile. I'd been pretty good about refraining from frequent riding but I wasn't too strict about it. So tonight I decided to treat myself. I dusted off two of my favorite toys, my penis plug and my go-to friend Progasm.
Progasm quickly as his custom filled me and took charge. It wasn't long as I concentrated on his bumps and nudges he began to vibrate my sweet spot internally, oh that felt good. So, I let him continue with his tricks and P-waves began to radiate through my loins moving my hips to keep up with them. Sub-consciously I keep trying to relax but, those wonderful waves they are so compelling.
As things finally began to slow down, Progasm took over again and a series of cascading Dry-O's permeated my mid-region. I had been told my first sessions following a Super would be filled with them and they are right. This cascading effect of sensations creates such a craving for more. I have more time off soon. I so want Super 2 the sequel to arrive.